Ending Child Abuse At School

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As a kid, I remember listening wide-eyed to my grandmother tell me about the “Dummy Room.” The Dummy Room was one of her first assignments as a young teacher in small-town Iowa in the 1930s. Like other Dummy Rooms across the country, it was the dumping ground for the school district’s hard cases.

The Dummy Room was supposed to be just for the “retards,” as they were widely called back then. But as Grandma quickly found out, many of the kids she’d been handed had no mental disabilities at all. Some just needed glasses. Others needed hearing aids. Many improved immediately after a few regular meals and proper grooming.

The road to the Dummy Room left scars on some of those kids. Frustrated (or sadistic) teachers had yelled at them or simply ignored them. Some of the kids had endured corporal punishment when they failed to respond to normal teaching methods. Thank goodness, I’ve often thought, that such treatment is a thing of the past. We now have special education and highly trained teachers. Ours is a more enlightened age.

Well, maybe. You could be excused for thinking otherwise after reading this editorial by U.S. Rep. George Miller, D-Calif., and Rep. Cathy McMorris Rodgers, R-Wash. The piece starts off recounting the terrible story of a Texas boy who died accidentally at the hands of a teacher bent on restraining him. Sadly, Miller and Rodgers point out, there are plenty of other cases like this:

According to the U.S. Government Accountability Office, over the last 20 years there have been hundreds of allegations of school personnel using restraint and seclusion in abusive ways on children. It's happening disproportionately to students with disabilities, often at the hands of untrained staff. Many of these students bear haunting physical and emotional scars. And in a number of cases, students have died.

Kids involved in incidents like these are often the toughest or most disruptive students. In many cases, it is easy to see how a teacher might act in self-defense or try to silence a constant source of annoyance. But sometimes that leads to tragic overreactions.

Miller and Rodgers have been pushing to create federal guidelines that would let the states tailor their own specific rules on restraint and seclusion. That seems very reasonable and long overdue.

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Abusive school Principal

Submitted by Anonymous on 9 June 2014 - 6:49am.

As a 10 yr old boy, standing in hot sun with Swollen cheeks, running nose, burning pain everywhere on my body, disgust of standing naked infront of 300 children, I swore I will kill my 6th Grade Principal some day when I grow up. Reason why she beat me up like that? not explained to me still,

15 yrs later when she met me accidentally and smiled at me, I moved on with a cold face, the rage still boiling in me

My dad used to beat me assuming that he is disciplining me with fear, till I yanked the belt back and swirled at him furiously at my 12th Grade. The hatred for the Sunday class teachers and pastors who encouraged parents beating their disobedient kids as mentioned in Bible, is one reason I find 1,000 excuses not to step into that Church again
Corporal punishment never made me a Gandhi or Buddha, but rather a ruthless rebel, an anarchist, anti-submissive, easy to be deceived by sweet fake words than by true rebukes, fantasy prone personality filled with painful childhood memories, whose impact and nightmares I still suffer.
I am now completely convinced only behavioral and cognitive therapies make a child more confident and ethics based human whereas physical punishments are nothing but frustrations of an unsuccessful parent/teacher which only will yield negative impacts

Just yesterday I heard in the

Submitted by Sara Harris on 5 February 2014 - 10:52am.

Just yesterday I heard in the news where a special education teacher abused several Black students. When she was caught and went to court on the charges, the judge let her off with a slap on the wrist. I totally blame the judicial system for their half-stepping on child abuse. The victims and their families are the only ones who suffer in cases such as this. If these teachers have mental problems then they should be locked away in a hospital and treated. On the other hand, some of these abusers are just plain mean and are doing the bidding of their father, Satan! Plus, cowards always pick on those who are more frail than themselves. They would never try abusing those who can defend for themselves. So, it's really up to the court to make sure theses abusers get exactly what they deserve. If they would get time in jail, then that would send a strong message to other abusers to act right. If a teacher find it difficult to maintain sanity in a classroom, then find another profession! May God be with the abused, and provoke the abusers to be more caring people.

I have written my experience

Submitted by Linnet Sailman on 29 April 2014 - 9:52am.

I have written my experience in school in a story book for children "The Power of Words" by Linnet Brown to help children to identify when they are being bullied in school by teacher and peers and speak to parents about their experiences. This book is online. It was a devastating experience because it was a teacher who started the bullying. I wish every parent would get a copy for their children.

There's a great book about

Submitted by alex on 25 February 2013 - 9:46am.

There's a great book about the routine abuse that students in the U.S public school system receive from their teachers and how the judiciary system allows, and encourages it. It's called "Uncle Sam's Schoolhouse: Bullying, Predators, and Students"

This is exactly what my fifth

Submitted by Anonymous on 14 October 2014 - 8:18pm.

This is exactly what my fifth grader is going through right now, bullying and harassment almost everyday. And the strange thing is school is not doing anything. If somebody can help me with their comments

I am child who is learning

Submitted by dy on 27 February 2013 - 8:08pm.

I am child who is learning the way of the world
I leave the comfort of my home, to go to a foreign place
where strangers from every corner of the world will teach
me what they think I should know....
My parents seems to trust them so I do too
Immediately am judged by the Color of my skin,hair style, clothing and music
Because of my origin they think I can't learn and shove me in the back of the class
All the other kids like me seems to accept it,
so I wonder if that's how things are suppose to be

The teachers put a blind fold over their eyes like the justice lady
so they wont see me
pretending that they won't peek to see whom they should teach better ...
me the color or the other ones like them
I wonder if my parents knows this is going on.....

Before the open world they act like A Good Samaritan
mentioned in the BIBLE and the world applauses
When the door shuts and world isn't looking am treated like a caged animal
They abuse,neglect, put me down hoping I will fail
but my mind is too strong for that
Because of the color of their skin and who they know in society
justice is never serve to those that hurt us

My own color will help in the abuse of us
because they are in the pockets of the others not like me
Our leaders turn a blind eye and say its our fault
If Martin Luther King was here what would he say?
I ask the Father above to forgive those who hurt me in their igorance while the justice system laughs.

It is horrible to think that

Submitted by morrison on 3 November 2011 - 9:22pm.

It is horrible to think that many behavioral problems can start from attending school. That would be the last place I that I thought such attitudes would develop. Children, especially those with learning disabilities, have a particularly tough time. Teachers who don’t know how to handle them often end up getting frustrated and ultimately “abuse” them. Such behavior is not acceptable, but how can we put an end to this?

Sitting with a group of my

Submitted by Sue on 4 November 2011 - 8:36pm.

Sitting with a group of my former class mates from grade school we all started to discuss our 6th grade torture class.
We were all in the same class and it was amazing that each of us have the same issues that followed us all through high school and on into our adult lives. In high school I was put into the college level English glass but was put into the lowest level math along with my other grade school classmates. No one noticed at the time that the majority of our class was only together in that one class in high school.
What is also amazing is the majority of our class did not contintue on college because we could not pass the required math classes. I tried to pass my pre-req Algebras classes 5 times and failed each time until I finally gave up. I feel I am not ignorant, I worked for a fortune 500 company as a database designer, web site designer and manager, as well as records manager for over over 21 years. I was never moved up further through the chain due to descrimination against my education. Without that darn degree I was not promoted and without algebra I couldn't get my degree.
Is there a way for all of us to file a class action suit after 40+ years against the school system for letting that man destroy our futures. The sad part is we came from a poor part of town so college would have been a blessing for our families.
I have been diagnosed with PTSD due to several other childhood issues but I can't help to feel that this is another part of my issues with test taking and passing math.

When working as a bus drivers

Submitted by David Dixon on 14 July 2010 - 3:01pm.

When working as a bus drivers aide in the early 80's we were taught proper restraint for a violent student. Many of these students were fully adult sized people, but had SMI and EMI ratings.

Never would I consider placing a child in a hold that might endanger them. How could this training have been forgotten or neglected over the years. All teachers and other educational workers should be trained in proper restraint and how to calm a situation before it gets out of hand.

I'm just sorry I didn't get

Submitted by renee on 25 June 2011 - 10:30am.

I'm just sorry I didn't get to chime in on this sooner. I think when we talk about 'abuse' in the school system, we aren't referring specifically to the kids that are hitting teachers, throwing chairs and being a complete terror to school teachers and children alike. Thousands of other children are punished for very low level disruptions--kids being kids sitting in chairs for 4 hours or more in 1st, 2nd, 3rd grade sometimes that giggle out of turn. This is the year 2011, being sent to the principal's office for minor misdemeanors in elementary school should not be anymore! We are supposed to have gained wisdom in our years. I don't see too much difference other than the removal of the 'dummy room' and the 'dunce cap', but the humiliation is still there. Having a child standing on a wall at an elementary school recess. Having a child under 12 sitting in an office for 6 hours plus for minor infractions done in the class--i.e. talking out of turn-not raising hand, etc...this is elementary school, not the army.

My child is an artistic, outgoing, fearless 9 year old. The school she is in has, what I feel are 'questionable' disciplinary measures I feel need to be addressed. In the last weeks of school they all but called my child crazy. Using words like non-empathetic, lack of social skills, etc. They suggested that she go see a counselor for her summer vacation!!! You can imagine my shock when I heard this as it has NEVER been suggested to me that my child was anything but sociable, outgoing, talks to any and everyone. Has NEVER had a problem making friends. I think her only downfall might be that she has an opinion and she doesn't let anyone tell her that it wrong! I'm sure that frustrates and over-controlling 3rd grade teacher.

Do not be fooled by the idea that these people are anything but overpaid babysitters at times. I'll tell ya, I could never see myself homeschooling as I didn't think I had the 'intelligence' to teach, but after speaking with these alleged 'teachers' I may have to look again. If anyone is going to screw up my children it's going to be me!

These teachers need to be held accountable for their own lack of empathy and bullying techniques. If they are going to have video cameras on the buses, why aren't their video camera's in the classrooms? I would feel better knowing that they knew we were watching them, so they had better be on their best behavior.

I think the level of expectations for our children is too high. There is little room for failure and a feeling of inadequacy appears, bringing on frustration anger and physical abuse to anyone in their way. By the time they hit junior high and high school, they have had it. Not all kids mind you, but the ones that get left behind..and they do get left behind. Pushed through the system. My oldest's grades were good until he hit 15..then they crashed. To me it's a red flag and you would think that guidance would've noticed this plunge and brought him in. But instead, they suggested high honors classes, etc...to try and 'beef up his grades'?? He flunked! He probably gave up after the first week! Thankfully he had enough credits to graduate, but he left high school with C's and D's....This is not acceptable.

Schools aren't perfect, and teachers are underpaid, but these kids are our future. They should be our investment and should be made our number one priority.

Proving Emotional Abuse is

Submitted by Rita Davis on 28 February 2010 - 7:43pm.

Proving Emotional Abuse is difficult and that is what abusive teachers count on when they torment their students in collaborative classrooms where teachers are supposed to be trained in special education issues. To go to the level of the child by rushing to call the parent of a disabled child and stating the child 'won' after seeing a big smile on their face after being told by the child that their parents changed their schedule back to the original way (exploratory Spanish versus Regular Spanish) makes one wonder where the level of maturity is with teachers who are supposed to be trained to work with children who have 504 Plans and I.E.P.'s when they purposely control when a child will get a break, take water, go to the bathroom or go to a safe place for students who have it stipulated on their plans as accommodations and modifications. To tell a child to 'get out' of the classroom and constantly write them up for referrals and the 'Intervention Room' when they don't want to implement alternate methods of teaching and coping skills for both themselves and for the students is blatantly abusive and often backed up by the Principal, Social Worker, Psychologist and Committee on Special education as well as district. There are places a family can go for advocacy in such cases, beginning with your local S.E.P.T.A (Special Education PTA); the U.S. Dep't of Educ. Ofc. of Spec. Educ. & Rehab. Svcs.: 1-202-245-7587; No Child Left Behind: 518-474-3862; V.E.S.I.D.- 518-474-2714 & for Mediation- 518-476-7462. Check your local area as well, like Long Island Advocacy Council for Nassau & Suffolk Counties of NYS; Advocates for Children of NY, Inc.- 800-388-2014. Hope this testimony and resources help.

This a particularly difficult

Submitted by Dr. Kraemer on 17 December 2009 - 1:12pm.

This a particularly difficult topic for me, as I have been both a victim of classroom abuse, and a parent of a child who was abused in the classroom. As a child, I had decent grades until 5th grade. The teacher was a gruff old WWII vet who had a reputation for hitting kids. When I began having math difficulties, he became verbally abusive, belittling me in front of the class. I began to miss assignments because I felt stupid, and then began trying to fake my way out of classes. I developed a pre-ulcerous condition due to stress. Mind you, he NEVER touched me. He did use verbal aggression, as well as displays of brutality toward others. The only thing that really changed the situation was the War. He had sustained a serious injury in the conflict, and the steel plate in his leg needed to be removed. He went out for the last half of the year. The substitute who took his spot took more interest in my problems and helped me through the remaineder of the year. I never did do well in math.

Years later, I am a Child Psychologist. My son is diagnosed with Pervasive Developmental Disorder. A lot like Asperger's Disorder. We have been extremely active participants in his IEP process, and they both love and hate us at the school district. In 3rd grade he was transfered with his classmates to a new school. His teacher, who did not have the training to deal with a PDD child, ended up causing severe psychological distress for my boy, and he was yelled at frequently.He went from jumping out of bed for school, to crying when it was time to get on the bus. There were several times we were called into the school to help control our boy. We had words with (and at) the teacher, administration, and staff of the school. To the teacher's defense, he was not an ogre. He was ignorant. It took great courage on his part, but he finally approached me and confessed his frustration. Although it was difficult, I worked through my own issues, and helped him on focusing on stratagies that would work with my son. The final half of that year went much more smoothly, and the teacher still calls to thank me. My son is now in 5th grade and literally can't wait to go to school.

I cry as I write this.

I am a retired social worker

Submitted by Maureen Handley on 16 December 2009 - 7:10pm.

I am a retired social worker who has been a substitute teacher for the past four years in the Chicago metropolitan area. I can attest to the fact that physical and psychological abuse is unfortunately perpetrated on too many children by too many teachers both in the city and in the suburbs. There is no excuse for physical or verbal abuse, no matter how good or bad the school, the system, or the children are. Children need to have basic human rights' protection.

Teachers who belittle their students in front of the class, insult their intelligence, or tolerate abuse of students by other students (yes, Columbine is the classic example)are failing their students. Teachers who resort to physical punishment should be charged with assault and battery. Unfortunately, there is a wall of silence in schools and in the profession. It is education's dirty little secret that professionals will not challenge their peers. This has to stop. The teachers know who the dysfunctional teachers are. The good teachers need to stand up and protect the students. And they need to stand up against the principal if necessary to protect children from abuse.

Teachers are mandated reporters of child abuse, just like doctors and nurses. They need to take their role seriously and protect the children in their school's care. Stand up and be counted. Maybe parents don't realize it, but they can also report child abuse by a teacher to the child welfare agency which has to legally investigate every complaint. Stand up and be counted. Protect your child. Change schools if necessary.

I have a special needs grandchild and our family has stood up for him every day, every year. We work cooperatively with the school personnel and have a good relationship, but we have worked at it and advocated for him. It is the easy way out for the teaching profession to blame the student for not learning instead of looking at the methods for teaching that are not succeeding. Speak up, stand up, complain, advocate, don't stop - you will be saving a child.

Focus on the educational welfare of one student at a time. Don't be sidetracked by the arguments that "nothing can be done." We have the greatest educational system in the world, but it can always be better, and it can always be made to work better for one student at a time. I know from experience and history that every time the system is made to get better for one student, it gets better for all students.

I work for the chicago public

Submitted by Anonymous on 20 December 2009 - 1:23am.

I work for the chicago public schools at michele clark magnet high school. I work with special neeeds/special ed students. The problem is with the bogus IEP's that some of the students have. We have one student with cerebal palsy non verbal but when the new teacher was reviewing the IEP's they had him as a verbal student. There were several flaws in all of the student's IEP's. My first year I sat in om student's eval but did not know what the process was about and saw the anguish of the parents and how they feel about the whole process.We also need to have compassion for the family also.

They still have the Dummy

Submitted by Snorlax on 16 December 2009 - 10:10am.

They still have the Dummy Room.

Only now it is called something more euphemistic, like the "Challenge Room" at my daughter's school (Jefferson County Schools, Colorado. They stink)

She has horror stories about this room. She got put there as punishment because she has Ausperger's and doesn't always fit in with the jocks and cheerleaders. She was bullied every year she was in Jeffco schools and they did not protect her. Columbine is a Jeffco school. Columbine happened because the school didn't stop bullying of Harris and Klebold by jocks who had the run of the school.

I work with schools and we definitely have problems with illegal use of restraints, corporal punishment, and other student abuse issues.

Colorado still allows corporal punishment in its public schools. I know of half a dozen rural schools who still practice this barbaric, unintelligent abuse on kids.

There are only two professions in the US where you can legally beat someone with a paddle...

...Principal and Prostitute.

The abuse that I saw in the

Submitted by Anonymous on 16 December 2009 - 12:00am.

The abuse that I saw in the classroom today was horrible. I brought together three other nurses to do our mandated vision and hearing screenings of kindergarten, 2nd, and 5th graders in a "rural" school in Southern CA. So in defense of the teacher I can say that it is a very busy, somewhat chaotic time. I would like to say that this was the first time I had seen this teacher emotionally abuse her students, but it was not. It was a kindergarten class. It was very early in the morning, and they were visibly frightened of her voice. Some however, were, I believe, splitting from the reality of the room entirely. Frankly, I was frightened. I remember thinking, "And the parents have no idea what is happening to their child while they are here..." When I return to the school I will have to speak to the Principal about my observations. No more tolerance on my part!

A comment on child abuse in

Submitted by Anonymous on 15 December 2009 - 8:58pm.

A comment on child abuse in the classroom:
Please note that corporal punishment as a means of classroom or school discipline is not illegal everywhere.
It is forbidden in some school districts, but not in others,
here in Pennsylvania, and many other states are the same. I do not know of a state in which corporal punishment ( meaning any physical punishment ) is legally forbidden in its entirety. Some of the people who don't want their own children "picked on" stand firmly in the way of completely outlawing this for everyone's children--other children, after all, might "need" to be "chastised" or "disciplined".
America, corporal punishment has been unlawful in our prisons for decades. Could we get it out of the schools, please.

As an educator in Ohio, I

Submitted by Anonymous on 15 December 2009 - 5:33pm.

As an educator in Ohio, I have personally seen and heard of too many special educators who have not had enough continuing education to meet the unique and demanding needs of special education students; students with significant behavioral difficulties or autism. These special educators do not understand or provide the myriad of antecedent, enviromental and positive interventions available that can assist special students. It is cruel and abusive to tie any young child into a restraining chair or to leave them to cry in a small room all alone. Yet that is what I have personally observed. The administration within the building and at the board of education know these practices are occurring and turn a blind eye. To speak up means loosing my teaching contract by turning against the administration and "established well regarded special education teachers". I have done what I can "quietly" do to attempt to change these situations. Special education teachers must be continually trained regarding current practices and research based interventions to assist special need students.

Thank you, Sean, for writing

Submitted by Barb on 15 December 2009 - 5:05pm.

Thank you, Sean, for writing this difficult piece. I was an educator in the special ed. department of 3 different schools during the last 34 years. In every school I witnessed "teachers" emotionally abusing students. As as teacher, I have always believed that my job was to help "fill the gaps" of my student's education. In every school, the administration corrected me. I was told to "help" them, but not to try to "fix" them. The school would loose funding if the number of students requiring special education went down.
I have left the teaching profession and now run my own school - where we are teaching to fill the gaps in every every student's education and giving them a new outlook on life and the future.
Any school that tolerates child abuse of any kind should be shut down! Every child is a gift to society. Teacher's must be about the task of finding the gift in each student.

When my son was living in

Submitted by Anonymous on 15 December 2009 - 1:31pm.

When my son was living in S.C. with his father he suffered abuse from the hands of a teacher and the principal went along with it. Every day he would get a "paddling". Two years later, when he came to GA, they found that he was dyslexic and had a processing disorder. The lasting effect? After having somache aches every day he went to school, he ended up dropping out in the 9th grade and still has trouble holding a job.
I am a teacher, and I see emotional abuse often. But when I stand up for a student, I am ridiculed. Remembering my son, I don't give up.
ijn, Augusta GA

i live in a small town in

Submitted by Shea slack on 27 March 2013 - 2:30pm.

i live in a small town in colorado where i grew up my son was born with a cleft pallet which has lead to some other problems. he isn't slow or stupid he just learns things different from his sisters. do the fact i am a single mom on a very limited income i could not afford the second surgery we discovered he was going to have to have about 2 years ago. so we went through shriners and they are going to do the surgery. somehow or other the principle and i got cross on how they treat my son at school and how he learns. needless to say we have had many head to head battles with the school and it isnt getting any better. now she is picking on my other kids and it has gotten very out of control to the point i have talked to the school board and am now faced to try and take this to a state level or file harassment charges. i dont know what else to do.

I graduated from college with

Submitted by Suzanne Gibson on 22 December 2009 - 12:23pm.

I graduated from college with a degree in English and minors in Secondary Education and Journalism. As a new teacher, the first year I taught 9th and 10th grade English, I had all the students who were repeating English 9 and 10, and a couple of the students had special needs (although no one told me about these beforehand). Although I was a caring person and really wanted to enable all my students to succeed, I was not prepared to deal with the varying needs of about 140 students, many of whom were already cynical about education and had suffered from abuses in the past.
One of the first days of school, the only non-white child in the class was behaving like he was under the influence of alcohol, so I asked him if he was drunk - oh, I so wish I had known he suffered from cerebral palsy!!! That was a quick lesson to me to be careful how I thought about my students. I so wish a course had been available in undergrad about recognizing and working with the variety of young people I had. Most teachers do not desire to inflict pain on their students, but all of us need to be made more aware of how to approach students whose behavior and needs fall outside of our personal realm of experience - such courses and seminars should be required in undergrad and not only in master's and doctoral-level courses. Much abuse could be prevented if teachers had the understanding and tools to work with diverse students from the start of their careers.

My son had no physical,

Submitted by Anonymous on 15 December 2009 - 7:51pm.

My son had no physical, mental or emotional impairments. He was in a regular classroom when I began to noticed odd behaviors in him. He loved his kindergarten teacher and first grade was fun. He always like to dress nice and keep his hair neatly cut(some would take this as being uppity). However, by second or third grade everything began to change about him. He went from a young happy, excited boy who jumped from bed every morning eager to go to school. To someone who cried or pretended to be sick in order to avoid going to school. He went from a neat dresser to a sloppy dresser. He went from someone who loved getting all his homework answers correct to someone who purposely missed questions. He went from a little boy his older siblings loved to watch as he slept and laughed out in his sleep to someone who screamed out and had night terrors. I was a very active parent in school. Although, I was not always at his school. I also worked in the school system for a while. But even I had no idea the extent of what was happening to him. When he began to open up and talk, I went to the principal to tell her what was going on. Instead of her addressing the matter, she went to all the teachers and told them to watch what they did in front of my son, because he was a liar. However, most of what I learned was happening to my son came from a neighbor's child and friend of my son's who was in my son's classroom and not directly from my son. My neighbor's son was Korean and didn't have any problems with the teacher.

I finally learned that my son had been dragged down a hallway almost half the size of a football field flat on his back by a teacher, who dragged him by the strap of his backpack. I also found out the reason he began to purposely miss some of his homework questions because if he got all answers right, the teacher would accuse him of cheating. I also learned the teacher had incorporated the help of other students in the classroom to pick on my son.

Needless to say, this did great damage to my son and his self esteem that still reverberate unto this day. My son is now a 28 year old young man. But great damage was done to him back then in elementary school. Outwardly, he's achieved a lot and one a lot of great things in his life. At a very young age he developed his own website and attempted to start a small business online. He was in his teens at the time. He did graduate from high school and went on to college and even served four years in the U.S. Air Force. He has two college degrees and is working on a third. However, something was lost way back then. That happy little spontaneous boy, who jumped out of bed every morning and liked to dress neatly and get all the answers to questions was forever lost. I can see in him how he struggles with depression too and insecurity. He is married and he and his wife (also military) lives in another state. They both should graduate from college this spring. The only thing that saved my son from a total breaddown and total loss, to the degree that he was saved, was he did have a loving family who, to this day, care for him. I feel for all those other children who may not have anywhere to turn or anyone to turn to when they are abused either by family or in what should be a professional school sitting with educated professional. I feel for many children, especially poor, minority and especially minority black male children, a lot of their anti-social behavior that develop later in their teens can often be traced back to abuse in the school sitting.

This is just so heartbreaking

Submitted by Anonymous on 8 January 2010 - 12:51am.

This is just so heartbreaking that an innocent child can be so harmed by a "professional" in a school setting where all kids should be safe and never fearful. I am paralyzed at the moment because I have a non-verbal beautiful, innocent disabled son who I fear may be getting physically abused at school. He cannot tell me what is going on, but I noticed he has slight bruising on his face a couple times when he returns from school. The first time it happened, he burst into tears the moment he saw me as he got off the school bus. I suspected the aide on the afternoon bus may have hit him in the face so he has not been back on that bus since. Today, I noticed slight brusing on his face again so he must have got that during school. I have been in his classroom as a volunteer so I know the other students do not have violent tendencies and am wondering if it's an aide or teacher in the classroom who is harming him. I am going to see the Superintendant of Schools tomorrow about this, but I have no proof other than the slight discolorations on his cheek. I just think he will contact the principal, the principal will contact the classroom teacher, the teacher will run it by the aides - no one will own up to it - end of story or worse, the perpetrator may start hitting him on the back of the head, etc. where there would be no evidence of physical bruising. HELP - what should I do in order to get to the bottom of this?

I understand how you feel. My

Submitted by Laura on 15 December 2009 - 5:19pm.

I understand how you feel. My son was not diagnosed with Autism, severe speech delay and mild sensory processing disorder until last year. For two year's in public and at school I fought for my son because I had to. At one point a doctor suggested a residential home and that my son would never remember me after 3 months. My reply was this, I cried, pleaded and acted strong enough to take whatever comes our way, I begged them not to take my son away. Some of the words I remember using were "He needs his momma and I need him, without my son I have no life or reason, my boys are my only reason I am here and they need eachother too. Together my family can help my son. I still took an addtional year for the offical diganoses that took 5 minutes of the behavior doctor's time. I feel they are a wonderful, saving and brillant soal in the struggle with Autism (Dr. Lindsey, that was our angel figure with my son's struggle). The sympathetic doctor to this day, 3 years later will not look me in the eye when they see my son especially after my son gives them a hug. His school last year was great in regards to social progress but academically it was not working out as well in order for him to reach his potential. The private academy program that was thankfully saved by our governor's efforts and the help of beautiful corporations has been our saving grace for this year. We are not in the clear yet but we are not longer drowning, it’s now just a hill instead of the mountain side to overcome. My fear is the future my present is my peace. I hope your son has a wonderful set of teacher's and principals in the future, each year is a new chance for our children, special needs or typical they all deserved the best. Press on and stay encouraged as someone said to us in our time of tears when we thought the program was going to end just 2 weeks ago. There is still a need but hope never gives up, don't stop sticking up for the children because if we do, no one will stand up for them and they deserved all the love in the world from their teachers and everyone who sets their eyes on them, that's my philosophy.

Thank you so much for you

Submitted by Greenwood, S on 15 December 2009 - 3:31pm.

Thank you so much for you post. I have endured the same thing and I don't give up. Until parents stop being afraid of this system that cares more about numbers and the teachers than they do parents, it will never change. My son suffered in high school at the hands of football coaches. He uses drugs, was diagnosed with severe depression and prescribed medication. Then the school refused to honor is 504 plan recommendations from his physician for an entire school year. He failed almost all of his classes.

I wrote an editorial in the community newspaper and now I am treated better, but what about the kids that don't have a parent with courage. I just pray and ask God to move those that do not mean our children any good out of the way. I also rally my friends and church members to make a point of caring for all children because we don't know what they go through in school.

In no way am I condoning the

Submitted by teacher on 15 December 2009 - 11:21pm.

In no way am I condoning the horrible and thoughtless actions of teachers who abuse, but I have to say that your remark about a system that favors teachers and does not listen to parents is ludicrous, but not for the reason you might think. In my experience, the opposite is true but only in certain situations. In the schools where I have taught, there are always parents who will be listened to, but they tend to be the rich or well connected parents. Their word trumps the teacher every time. Also, lets remember that Johnny and Suzie are not the perfect angels you think they are and it's not always the teacher's fault when a conflict of personality arises. That said, there are times when teachers are unfair and abusive but I would say that those times are dwarfed by the number of times that students recieve a safe, fair, quality education. If EVERY teacher picks on your child you should probably be asking yourself what kind of child you are raising.

As an educator, it greatly

Submitted by Anonymous on 15 December 2009 - 4:48pm.

As an educator, it greatly saddens me to hear about abuse, exclusion, and continually failing to reach students. That is certainly not why my respected colleagues or I have decided to become educators. If you ask most educators, they will state that they went into education to make a positive difference in the lives of young people in hopes for a more just, fair, and educated society.

I agree that for some educators, this purpose gets lost somewhere along the way. The unfunded mandates, pressures of high stakes testing, and increasingly challenging students makes an educators job extremely difficult. Now, most educators do not resort to abuse, whether it is physical, verbal, or emotional. Many of us simply work harder and longer, still maintaining a positive rapport with our students and finding out what we need to do differently to better reach our students. So in response to the above comment about caring more about teachers and numbers than parents, I would have to agree with that, because it is our job to care about our students, not so much the parents. Controlling numbers and making a positive work environment for the teachers are factors that directly affect our students - those who we are directly serving.

I believe the best scenario for students is for teachers and parents to come together and understand that we might have differing views as to what is best for each individual student. A parent's perspective is often so much more personal and an educator's perspective may be more academically objective. Understanding that both parties have legitimate knowledge about the child to bring to the table in order to best serve the student will warrant the best result.

What school district do u

Submitted by Brian on 23 February 2014 - 1:30pm.

What school district do u teach

Thank you for your comments!

Submitted by Anonymous on 16 December 2009 - 8:29am.

Thank you for your comments! I too am an educator. I went into teaching because I wanted to make a difference, reach every child where they are. I am sorry that the parents above are experincing these issues and I feel even sadder for the children in those situations. However, please know that not every teacher is out to get the students! I personally make every effort to collaborate with parents and meet each child where they are. This is what I feel is a recipe for success!

Thank you for your comment.

Submitted by Teacher in Phoenix on 16 December 2009 - 1:17am.

Thank you for your comment. It certainly does echo the thoughts and concerns of the teachers at our school.

Let us please hold off the

Submitted by Anonymous on 15 December 2009 - 10:03pm.

Let us please hold off the label of the evil educator
who sets expectations and pushes often
manipulative students who seek to disrupt
the environment and process for others.
Johnny has to meet expectations to
earn credit for class or we fail society
by giving away unearned good grades. We
must acknowledge that many of our students
simply do not care to work to learn so
they blame the teacher who challenges
them academically. This is not abuse! Our
society is growing too quick to blame and
not teach. Remember Columbine? A teacher
and students died at the hands of other
students. The tone of this strand is painting
any teacher who challenges students in a
negative light. Do we really want Suzy gaining
unearned good grades so she never faces
the fact her work was under standard. Shall
we sell or give diplomas away just to
protect self esteem? Most students are open
to the learning process and it is wonderful to
see the light bulb switch on! Sadly, an ever
increasing number of kids are not invested
nor do they care that they disrupt and take
away from kids in class who do want to learn.
Noting this fact does not make one an evil teacher.

I work for a school the

Submitted by Angel on 18 September 2011 - 4:03pm.

I work for a school the Public school system as well and I have to say if you think a teacher can not tear a kid down and destroy him/her in one school year then you need a head check up. My son was a fast learning individual he had his issues but he worked hard to please the teacher. When he came out of Kindergarten he could answer any math question you put in front of him he should have been moved to a 2nd grade math level but I did not want to rush it to fast so I did not push for that. I let him go on just regular like every other kid to first grade. By the time he came out of first grade my son could not count on his fingers and tell me what two plus two was. the teacher put him in the "bad kid part of the room" as my son was told and he was never able to move out of it. why you ask because he was on meds for adhd that made him bashful and he would not look at the teacher in the eyes when she spoke in front of the class but he could answer any question she asked him. I had conference after conference did homework ten pages at a time. we worked and worked but she tore him down to the point that he has now been diagnosed as Emotionally Disturbed. So I say to you Teachers that are not there for the kids are the devil in incarnate and need to go back to the rocks the crawled out from under. This has made me to go back to college to become a teacher instead of an accountant. Just to try and fix the damage worthless people do to these poor kids. so if you are not a teacher with compassion for kids and the different ways that they learn go back to your rock and stay there leave the leaders of tomorrow alone.

I understand that there are

Submitted by Robin on 11 May 2011 - 7:15am.

I understand that there are children who act out and disrupt. I also understand that children are being mentally abused by educaters that have no business being in the field. I have had some of the best and worst teachers in my life. My son goes to a school the discriminates against him for a learning disability. My child was a happy go lucky kid who excelled in elementary school and was in the excelled classes. The learning disability affects his writing skills. There are 504 plans that allow kids to have special learning tools to aid in this area. I have had to fight every year since middle school to get his school to help him. One teacher shredded his homework in front of him and the class one day. God help the woman for being so ignorant. He worked four hours on that homework, it was correct, he just did not get it out of the book bag fast enough to suit her. This is abuse. Teachers telling there students they are the dumbest kids they ever worked with is abuse. When I have to go to the school for the purpose of the 504 plan or ways we can help my son in classes that become difficult, he sits in these meetings with his head down and mumbles through them. That is a sure sign the child has been beat down emotionally. I am furious. I have talked with my child and continuously tried to find away to get him out of this school. I have a limited income and have not been able to pay out of district fees. He works on cars in his spare time and is very mechanically inclined. His science grades are throught he roof. If he asks for help from the teachers, he is ridiculed and belittled. He begged me not to talk to anyone at the school because they will make it harder on him. Other kids tell me they all pick on him and that they don't understand why the teachers are so mean to him. I work with one guy who dropped out of this same school because of the way these teachers abused him. He is an excellent worker, smart, quick to learn, hard working and all. My child will graduate in a year. Unfortunately these teachers remain at this school to abuse other children.The school was investigated a few months back for some reason. The students were threatened with suspension and refferels if they spoke to any of the investigators. There are severe problems here! Not all teachers are in the business of educating these brilliant children in our world. Some people become teachers to be able to abuse others. Good teachers deserve a pat on the back, but stopping the abuse in these schools is next to impossible. A friend of mine could afford to move his kid to another school. The child has excelled at the other school and stays on the honor roll. My son becomes sick every day before school. I am not so sure that I would not rather let him drop out and take the adult education courses to avoid further abuse. He just wants to be able to graduate and leave this"stupid town", his words. No child should have to suffer the abuse from his educators.

I believe you are missing the

Submitted by Beth on 16 December 2009 - 8:01pm.

I believe you are missing the point of most of the above posts. Yes, some of the children we are referring to may not be working hard at school, but many of the children struggle because of a disability or a different learning style or have a teacher who really doesn't like them (yes, it happens). And why aren't some children working hard or caring about school? When children come to preschool or kindergarten they are excited to be in school. What happens to cause some children to dislike school? Having high expectations is important for all children, but we as teachers have to figure out how to reach the child too. Unfortunately, as a teacher, I do see some of my colleagues abuse children emotionally or physically- usually unintentionally, but still it happens. Our public schools offer an education to ALL children. The ones who learn easily with traditional methods and the ones who have difficulty learning for one reason or another. It is usually these children that are abused. Often teachers become frustrated because they can't figure out how the child learns best or because the child presents with difficult behaviors. Many children have extremely complicated lives, and young children especially have a difficult time having the language to express their feelings. Behavior is a child's form of communication. A baby cries to tell you they are hungry or hurting. An older child who has not found crying to be effective in getting his needs met, may yell or hit to show adults that he needs help. When teachers cannot determine what message the child is trying to convey, they often feel the need to stop the behavior with timeouts or restraint which often leads to more aggressive behavior. In reality, a hug may be what the child really needs.

I believe that virtually all teachers want what is best for students, but may fail students when they are not successful teaching them. In my district, the answer is often to label the child and place that child in a self-contained room. It gets rid of the regular education teacher's frustration, but is rarely best for the child. By excluding some children from the regular classroom we are segregating them- no other group (ethnic, racial, gender, etc.) is allowed to be segregated in public school- except children with disabilities. Another option would be to add adults in the classroom to support the children who need more assistance, especially those who need emotional support. If we put more money into our schools, especially in the hiring of quality adults who truly love children, teachers would have more energy for teaching and the children who struggle would feel more supported.

I have a son diagnosed with

Submitted by Letitia Wolf on 15 September 2010 - 7:37pm.

I have a son diagnosed with ADD/ADHD, Non verbal learningdisabilty, oppositinal defiant syndrome, anxiety and depression. Am also a nurse having over 26 yr. in psychiatric and other fields. My son has been made fun of, ridiculed, harrassed, lied about to the point of suspension and multiple other things at school. Primarily due to his inability to understand nonverbal cues, kidding vs. being mean, etc. Other students make fun of him, lie about him, due to his being quiet, and not understanding when they are kidding. I have actually witnessed a principal calling my son a liar to my face. I am now in the middle of enrolling him in the home schooling program. unfotunately that also forces him out of social interaction with his peers which is a huge issue with an nvld child. So far his IEP and BIP does nothing but makes sure the school gets their funds and looks good on paper. When my child tells me "mom, it dont matter what the teachers say, cause they all end up being mean to me anyway". Now, tell me how anyone else would feel when their child tells them that. And we wonder why these kids have a bad attitude towards school. Ive been fighting for my son since second grade and I am tired of dotting the i's and crossing the t's to make it look good on paper. All i want is my son to have a good education. Is that too much to ask for?

I think you are missing the

Submitted by Kathy Flores on 16 December 2009 - 2:04pm.

I think you are missing the point.
This is not about students who are apathetic. This is about educators and administrators who cause physical or emotional injury to students, and unfortunately it happens far too frequently, even in this more enlightened day and age. I have been an educator for nearly 30 years, the last 10 of which have been spent as a Behavior Specialist working in urban schools with those "tough kids" everyone makees reference to, and I can tell you that I am far too often deeply disturbed by the negative attitudes and behaviors displayed by some educators and administrators (more often than not they have many, many years in the field). Most educators are wonderful, dedicated and caring professionals who are in the field for the right reasons. But far too many are frustrated, jaded, or simply apathetic themselves, and they can cause lasting damage to the young, malleable minds in their charge. This is a problem that needs to be put out on the table and dealt with by the public so it can once and for all become a practice of the past.

well said. I completely

Submitted by Beth on 16 December 2009 - 8:11pm.

well said. I completely agree with you. I teach preschool in a very poor urban area and am repeatedly shocked by the number of children attending school for the first time, who are labelled as having a behavioral disability (nearly all boys of color) within a few months of the school year. Many teachers make comments about the children and/or the parents and treat the child disrespectfully and then claim the child is the problem.

I appreciate all the comments

Submitted by Anonymous on 15 December 2009 - 4:37pm.

I appreciate all the comments and would never wish for any child to face abuse whether it is physical or emotional abuse from any adult, especially a teacher or teaching staff. However, I am a stay-at-home mother or 2 school-age children who struggled academically because English is not their first language, and were left to fall through the cracks because teachers were so busy attending to the disruptive students in the room. I do not think that one or two students should be allowed to dominate the teacher's time and energy, when so many other students are also deserving of a fair education. I ended up having to transfer my children out of that school and placing them in a charter school, where expectations were clear and distruptive students, whether they had a 504plan/IEP or not were not allowed to ruin other students' chances of getting an education.
Now they are in high school and junior high and are both doing well because the learning environment is safe for all students, not just some. Although, I could have been more insistent with that school, I decided that environment was not the right one for my children if their success had to take a back seat to others.

Be very careful about

Submitted by Dodgester on 13 April 2012 - 2:28am.

Be very careful about claiming children with a 504 plan or IEP to be the trouble makers in class. I state this because my 2nd oldest daughter has an IEP. When she was in the 2nd grade, her teacher was pinning the negative actions of another student onto her throughout the school year. I was working full time, so I didn't really get much of a chance to check it out, thus I was dependent on my wife doing that. One day near the end of the school year, another parent who also had a kid in her class spoke up and told my wife about the teacher doing this very thing.

My wife told me that same evening, and the very next day, I ended up talking with the assistant principal about the situation as the principal wasn't there. I said while this problem is a relatively small problem it was something that had to be dealt with ASAP because if it wasn't, the other kids would pick up on it, and they would beat the living tar out of her just as what happened to me when I was in grade school, but only I had 3 life strikes against me (LD in language, epileptic seizures, and being in the foster care system). The assistant principal was taken aback by what I had said, but could tell I was speaking directly out of experience. She couldn't believe what she was hearing me say as she didn't think a such thing could happen.

I did end up pulling her out of that school, though for other reasons. However, in hind sight, it was a good thing I did as what I told her would happen if they didn't deal with it, that very thing did happen, but only to other such kids there at the school. As such, I am asking you to be very careful not to instantly think it's the special needs kids that's causing the problems.

Don't get me wrong, obviously, you can't have special needs kids disrupting class, but they do need to get integrated into regular classes to a reasonable extent possible because the less these special needs kids are interacting with other kids who has no special needs, the worse the social injustices takes place against these special needs kids like they can't do anything in life, or they were punished for some sin that either they or their parents did, thus they are looked upon as being an eye sore to society. We do not need to have these sorts of social injustices taking place as it hurts greatly and it creates both fear and trust issues that's long lasting. I know first hand as I been through it all. Not only that, but integrating these special needs kids with the other kids would be helpful to these special needs kids, so as they have a greater chance of learning how society works and their social life can be better from it. Without such interactions, as they reach adulthood years, they can be seen as an outcast due to the lack of sufficient social skills, and many people will not take the time to even consider them.

Hearing stuff like this makes

Submitted by Tiffany on 15 December 2009 - 3:09pm.

Hearing stuff like this makes me angry, why do people like this want to become teachers and principles? It is sickening to me, my son had a math teacher in 4th grade who picked on him and she was also his tutor as well because he had problems in math, I guess she had no interest in helping him but she did take interest in causing his self esteem to fall by humiliating him in class, every teacher said he was a a joy to have in class and she never made any comments, finally one day after he had enough of her treating him badly and she accused him of cheating when he had not even written anything and the boy behind him was always talking to him the teacher told him to throw his paper away but instead he crumpled it up and threw it at her and left the room crying, needless to say I had had it with this woman and I voiced my opinion and come to find out there were other classes in which she picked out one child who had problems in math to pick on.

I agree. I work with special

Submitted by Anonymous on 20 December 2009 - 1:11am.

I agree. I work with special needs students and have seen how some of the students are treated. It can be hard working with these children but you have to take a break and regroup so that you will not say/do anything stupid.It saddens me because I think about my son and boys in particular how they are treated by teachers. Boys learn differently form girls and tend to have more learning "problems" than girls. Some of the people I work I could lead them to a cliff and throw them off because of their atitudes. I have told the principle and any one who is willing to listen that I want more training if I am to continue working with these students and I think that is one of the problems, training. My degre is in liberal arts and political science but I was offered a position as an aide to a special ed teacher who is not really qualified according to NO CHILD LEFT BEHIND standards. I think one of the problems is the educational system keps telling teachers and college students how much money they can make in the field. I have made plans and have attended graduate classes but it is exspensive and I have two children in college but I feel it is worth it if we really want to help all students.It's time that parents take back the control of their children. Our children's souls do not belong to the state or federal government, the courts,DCFS or the public schools.

I hope you are really doing

Submitted by Dodgester on 13 April 2012 - 2:05am.

I hope you are really doing as you say. I was one of those kids that was in special eduation as a result of the learning disability primarily in Language. That LD along with the seisures I use to have to deal with were both caused by a high fever of 102F and a right ear ache combined when I was 10 months old. As such, that created 2 of my 3 life strikes growing up and had set the stage for me to get abused and not treated with proper respect in school including capital punishment for not doing my English homework back in the 1st grade. Close to half way through my 3rd grade year, I was put into the foster care system as a result of the physical abuse by my own mom, which I ended up staying in the foster care system until I had graduated from high school. This was my third strike. Like in baseball, 3 strikes and you are out, that's more or less how I was treated by the school officials and my guardians alike. It was so bad to the point instead of the physical abuse going away, it got much worse but only by the school officials allowing the older bigger kids ganging up on me to beat the living tar out of me for so long as I was not hospitalized. Yet, if I was to fight back out of self defense after the fact I had told them about it before hand and they either told me to ignore it or they didn't want to hear it, I was punished by both the school officials and my guardians. I had to deal with these school ground beatings daily during recess time.

These days, yes, the school officials has significantly more knowledge about the various disabilities as compared to 30 years ago, but the social life of these disabled/disadvantaged kids are still no better than what they were 30 years ago. Two of my five girls are special needs kids as a result of the issue they inherited from my wife's side of the family. Yes, you may think it could have been from my side, but my 2 disabilities were caused by a medical issue when I was 10 months old. On my wife's side, there is the history of ADD/ADHD and 2 of my 5 girls has that. I still see the social injustice in school today just as it was 30 years ago. Yes, the beatings may not be as bad, though that depends on the school as some schools don't deal with the situation to the point the kids will still do the beatings. But even in schools where the beatings don't take place, these same kids are still not allowed to voice their opinions and/or concerns, and they are still held back in many ways. By holding back these kids like that, it means they are given less time to be able to do things in life itself such as even in my case, instead of being given 40 to 45 years to work in life, at least 2 of those years been chopped off due to being held back academically all because of the LD issue I had to deal with. More time been chopped off due to other college issues, but that's a whole another issue to itself that doesn't pertain to this issue. As far as I'm concerned, holding back children because of LD issues is no good reason to hold back kids. Instead, what needs to happen is to help these kids find ways for them to learn how to learn for themselves while overcoming their LD issue(s), like what Jack Minor at the residential school as part of Whaley Children Center in Flint, MI did for me. He was the one that taught me how to learn for my ownself. By him doing that, he had more or less openned the doors of knowledge to me. I still had to go in and get it, but by him doing that part, that was the first of 3 major turning points in my life. However, this particular school was designed to help kids that has life issues to deal with, which they are still in operation today as we speak.

As for the public schools, none of them treated me with proper respect right from the start. Eventually the high school did, but only because I became #1 at the software side of computers back in the DOS days of the late 1980's when the base memory were only 512KB. I ended up training the staff people how to use the programs they handed to me which I at first didn't know how to use such programs at first. But yet, with my gifted logical thinking skill, and the fact I ended up learning English in the same sort of manner as to how a person learning a programming language would learn it, I have been able to think like how a computer works, and I would figure things out very quickly to the point they were astounded to how I would pick such things up so fast. Let's just say, I very quickly more or less went into a league of my own, which very few people would even come close to matching up with me. Since that time, I have created various things, automated various business process by 90% or more greater efficiency and accuracy, and even created a mouse driven production reporting system within a 3 week time period (the only time period I was granted given the short notice) to make things much easier than what the IT department had proposed for us to use. Of course, when I stated I was going to create the solution in Excel (given I had to go with what I knew and what I had to work with at that point of time), the 2 main guys instantly stated it wasn't going to work because Excel is not a sharing program. I was like, I already knew about that and I already knew how to get around that issue along with several others because I already knew Excel pretty much inside out. No, I didn't have any involvement with MS as far as creating Excel is concerned, but one reason why I learned as much as I did with Excel, as a child, I was forced to depend strictly on my ownself as I could not depend on anyone else to even remotely help me out as a general rule. There were only a very minor few individuals that were the exception to this rule. Other than that, I had to depend strictly on my ownself and that meant I had to create my own tools, do nearly all of the work my ownself, which also meant I had to learn as much as I could. I also was forced into the situation that I had to be exceptionally good academically and with other things in order to get the proper respect, which meant I had to have grades of 90% or higher. Even 89% was frowned upon, and yet, today in college, the courses are of much lower level than they were 20 years ago and the grading scale is only 70% as the minimal standard to meet, not the 90% that I was more or less forced to meet in high school. Example, what they teach in college for Accounting, nearly everthing through the junior year of college and even some things in the senior year, I had in high school at the vocational high school of Genesee Area Skill Center during my junior and senior years of high school (1988-1990).

When I was in the third grade, I was forced to have the times table memorized by answering 100 different unique problems ranging from 0 to 9 within 5 minutes (yup, 20 questions per minute or 1 problem to answer every 3 seconds). Today, they barely even go over the times table, but yet, they don't make it a requirement to have it memorized at all. I see this as a problem cause this sets the stage for people to get taken advantage of when it comes to big ticket items and other financial matters.

As such, while our educators may have learned some things dealing with various disabilities, the social life of disabled/disadvantaged kids has not improved, and the level of our education has severely degraded as compared to 30 years ago.

Bravo! Thank you for your

Submitted by Rhoda F. Taylor on 13 November 2013 - 11:22pm.

Bravo! Thank you for your story.

This sounds so true. When

Submitted by Anonymous on 15 December 2009 - 4:14pm.

This sounds so true. When our daughter was in a first grade she had a teacher who did not like her. This was a totally new experience for our daughter. Our daughter was determined to be student of the month and every month when she did not get the award we would meet with the teacher to review her failings for the month to understand why she did not get the award. Finally in February I bklluntly said just tell me what she has to do and she will do it she really wants to be student of the month. The teacher shook her head and said,"Well as long as she is in my room she will never be student of the month." I thanked her and left. She was one of the school's most highly regarded teachers and I knew goiong to the principal wouldn't change anything. I explained to my daughter that she was not goiong to get an award, but it diddn't have anything to do with her or how well she was working and behaving in class.
Fortunately my daughter had a wonderful 2nd grade teacher who re-ignited her love for school. Our daughter went on to graduate from high school with honors and just recently graduated from the Arizona State University Nursing program as is now a Pediatrics Nurse. Teachers make a difference for better or worse.

What an AWESOME story- I

Submitted by Kim Williams on 5 October 2012 - 3:44pm.

What an AWESOME story- I admire your daughters will and determination- and good for you for being open and honest with her and not letting the actions of the teacher break her spirit and pride in herself- Some people should NOT be teachers and she certainly sounds like one of them- I have two grown boys and one still in high school and one of my older boys had a teacher who picked on him constantly- once he didn't "make his day" because a miniscule piece of paper fell off his desk and onto the floor (a remnant that had came from tearing off a piece of paper from his spiral notebook) The "Making your day" program is a neat program and revolves around responsibility and disrupting the learning of others- That miniscule piece of paper did not fall under any category for him not to "make his day". I was right there, the next day, talking to the principle. I have seen, so often these days, teachers, mistreat children- and I think until a parent stands up to them, and lets them know they are actively involved in their child's lives, they unfortunately will mistreat them. I know not all teachers operate this way, there are some awesome teachers out there. But those ones that try crushing the spirits of others, in my opinion, should find a new line of work-