When I took the opportunity to co-teach a mixed-grade level coed dance class, I expected some of the boys to be reluctant to participate in the ballet portion for fear of being seen as gay or at the very least feminine. To cut this off before it started, I used a Teaching Tolerance lesson plan that allows students to explore gender stereotypes. I put labels on each student’s back with the name of a profession. I assigned traditionally male careers to girls and traditionally female careers to boys. Students had to figure out their profession by asking yes or no questions of their classmates. Afterwards, they reflected on their reaction to the assigned profession. This activity set the stage for breaking down stereotypes as we also introduced ballet as a dance form.
More than a few girls were dissatisfied with their assigned careers in manual labor. For example, one young woman, assigned to be a plumber said, “That’s such a gross job because you have to work with toilets.” No one directly rejected a job because it was associated with a particular gender. Students unhappy with jobs cited reasons of class. They wanted to do better for their family than “just wait tables.” After hearing from several students, I finally asked the young man whose assigned career was ballet dancer to share his reaction. With unexpected enthusiasm he said, “I’m excited. I love dancing.” To my surprise, no one snickered.
One of the senior boys chimed in and said, “I know what you are trying to get us to say. You want us to say we don’t want a job that should be for the opposite gender, that being a male dancer makes you less male.”
Of course, I didn’t want that to be true, but I was trying to uncover the assumptions I imagined some of my students held. And with that, the students brainstormed all of the stereotypes they had heard or thought in regard to male dancers: weak, feminine, gay, unathletic. There was no shortage of stereotypes to add to the list. We watched clips of Sokvannara (Sy) Sar, a ballet dancer from Cambodia and Mikhail Baryshnikov. After each clip, I asked students to cross off stereotypes from the list that just didn’t mesh with what we’d seen. They also read an essay called Don’t Judge Me By My Tights and continued to erase the stereotypes from the list. And finally, I asked them to try dancing ballet. For a group of urban students more comfortable with hip-hop, punta, and even bhangra, I knew it would be a stretch.
I’m not sure how it would have played out if I had not taken the time to explore the students’ discomfort with ballet in general and male ballet dancers in particular. But when our ballet instructor asked them to follow her in the basic ballet positions, every single boy tried it. In fact, the only defectors were a few stubborn girls who just couldn’t see the value in pointing their toes.
I’m left with many questions: Does my students’ openness to male dancers mean the stereotypes have disappeared? Is this merely a sign that students know they are supposed to mask or hide stereotypes, and, if so, does bringing stereotypes to the surface help students remove their biases? Most importantly, if there is no evidence of bias, should I assume that none exists? I may not get all these answers right away, but this opportunity was a way to at least start the conversation.
Thomas is an English teacher in California.



Comments
This is great. I'm always
This is great. I'm always excited when people explore this issue. I'm a male dancer and a school teacher. I didn't start ballet until really late, so I started my website about ballet for men to help try and address some of these issues. I think the issue with ballet and gender is that the stereotypes run very deep. When you address them, the individual sees they don't matter and they really don't care. I've found that given the chance to do ballet in some settings, every boy I've worked with has given it a serious effort (and I've noticed some girls are more reluctant to try because they don't want to not be able to do it). But if you talk to a boy about actually taking ballet and becoming a "dancer," you'll see issues come up. Many times boys worry about what others will say, what it means to become a dancer, and how their dad will react.
It seems individually boys will get over the stereotype, but the issue of how society will view them is very much still there. It is really too bad. Dance offers so much. I think that males need an artistic outlet very much, they are unfortunately limited to very few stereotypical types of expression.
I think doing like you did is great. Really pushing students into an opportunity. Now ballet is an option, if students ever decide to ignore social stereotypes. When I teach break dance clubs, students always know I am a ballet dancer, and I will throw in a few ballet moves. I noticed that after a few weeks of doing that, the males would join in and practice ballet moves. And they had remembered things I did weeks ago. I think when they see a guy do a double tour or a quadruple pirrouette, they really want to be able to do it too.
Thanks!
Of course there should be
Of course there should be tolerance to all people. I do not think that you pushed anything on anyone, you did give them an opportunity to learn. As you gave them an opportunity, they seemed to be free to choose to do nothing with the lesson; this is not pushing. Nobody learns anything from being pushed. However, I also think that you really are finding the older population to be biased against male dancers, even as they might remember Gene Kelly. I merely wonder if this is whom you might be trying to reach through your class.
Thanks for responding from a
Thanks for responding from a place of personal experience. I appreciated your insights in to this dilemma. In my blog I had mentioned that a few girls refused to participate, and I have never considered that there reason, as you say, might have been fear of failure. If ballet is something girls do, then all girls should be able to do it, right? Very interesting. I think you are right that individual boys can move past the stereotype but the societal norm is still the same. One of the senior boys in my class pointed out this double-standard between it being okay for boys to be break dancers but not ballet dancers. Again, thanks for your comments!
I think that what's important
I think that what's important is asking these questions (not so much answering them). You did such a wonderful thing, opening up the conversation with these kids. If all teachers did this, in age-appropriate ways throughout childhood, what a different world we would have!
I love the Teaching Tolerance education tools.
I write about raising my gender-nonconforming boy at www.sarahhoffmanwriter.com.
Wonderful post. It is always
Wonderful post. It is always good to test assumptions and push into the comfort zones of people.
You pose wonderful questions which are important to ask. My own assumption is that stereotypes do not disappear though they may change.
Thanks for the thoughts.