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This Film Is Based on a True Story
Jamie Nabozny carefully
planned his every move at school. He had to. The bullying by his classmates in
Ashland, Wisconsin, was unrelenting.
The attacks began in middle school. Jamie knew he was gay and had told his family, but hadn’t come out to friends and classmates. It didn’t matter; his classmates saw him as gay. At first, the bullies called him names. That progressed to tripping and shoving, and then to kicks and punches. They ganged up on him in the restroom. Jamie was once kicked so hard that he had to go to the hospital.
Jamie adapted as best he could. Before the first class bell rang, he was already mapping out his day. Jamie got to school early to miss the rush and took refuge in quiet corners. He used hall passes to avoid crowded class changes. And he looked for out-of-the way restrooms where he wouldn’t be attacked. Only after other students left school would Jamie finally make his way home.
“I spent a lot of time thinking defensively, which is a strange thing to have to do at school,” said Jamie, who is now in his mid-30s. “Looking back, I feel like I tried to be numb as much as possible to not feel what was happening.”
Jamie reported the abuse to teachers and administrators, but they did little to stop the bullies. A middle school administrator told Jamie he should expect to be bullied if he was going to be gay. A high school official asked him what he did to cause the attacks.
Nabozny’s story is told in the new Teaching Tolerance film Bullied: A Student, a School and a Case that Made History. The documentary shows how Nabozny courageously stood up for his rights. He filed a lawsuit against the district and school officials. His suit led to an important court decision that public school officials had to protect all students from bullies, even those who are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender (LGBT).
The Viewer’s
Guide Offers Advice for School Leaders
The Bullied viewer’s guide that
comes in the film kit includes professional development activities and guidance
for school leaders as well as classroom lessons. While most schools and
educators will act promptly when faced with bullying based on race, religion or
ethnicity, many are less likely to confront harassment based on sexual
orientation. The Bullied guide provides guidance in a series of answers to the questions
educators who use the kit may be asked by their colleagues, members of the
community or parents.
The guide addresses these important issues:
- Why is a film on anti-gay bullying necessary?
- What are the risks to students?
- What is at stake for the school?
- Does the ruling depicted in Bullied apply to my school?
- What about a teacher’s, student’s or parent’s personal beliefs?
- How can I explain the decision to use Bullied to my school community?
- How can I use Bullied in staff development?
- How can I assess my school’s climate?
- Where can I find resources for effective anti-bullying programs?
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a story like mine..
his story is almost similar to mine..from mmiddle school to present.. my father was abusive i am a victim of emotional abuse i knew too many things about sex atraction when i was a little, infact i saw my parents doing it when i was just 7 or 8 yrs old that was a big shock for me and was equivalent to a sexual abuse for me. it was too terrible to see that happening, moreover when i was 5 i loved to get dressed like a girl but my father was the one who abused me that time. he is formally my father but has no affection for me. but my family is too conservative and thinks adults are always right and do moral things but reality is something else. i know im gay ive told my parents but the dont want to believe me, thats okayy.. im living a soulless life and i can do commit nything anytime..
We saw the movie in our
We saw the movie in our college development psyc class tonight. It was hard as a mother of 2 kids to imagine being in Jamie's position. However more kids do need to speak up for what is right!!
I like reading your site. I
I like reading your site. I am doing my Senior Project on bullying and harassment. i was wondering if would send me a free copy of your 38 minute video with the discussion guide. This project means a lot to me so i was just hoping you would help me out with it.