Families Like Mine: Children of Gay Parents Tell It Like It Is

The book Families Like Mine: Children of Gay Parents Tell It Like It Is was written by Abigail Garner and published in 2004. 
Abigail Garner
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Excerpts from pp. 97-99-100, 105-6, 111 (574 words) from FAMILIES LIKE MINE: CHILDREN OF GAY PARENTS TELL IT LIKE IT IS by ABIGAIL GARNER Copyright © 2004 by Abigail Garner. Used by permission of Harper Collins Publishers
Text Dependent Questions
“Coming out” is a phrase used to describe the moment when people explain their sexual orientation and tell
other people that they are gay, bisexual or transgender. What does the author mean when she says LGBT parents
have an “ongoing coming-out process”?
It is not just a one-time thing. They continually explain their family dynamic to new teachers, doctors, day-care
workers, religious leaders and parents of their children’s friends.
Why did it scare Darius Greenbacher to have lesbian parents when he was 11?
He thought people would think he was gay and that made him scared and nervous. Some people are not accepting of gay people.
Based on the text, what does homophobia mean?
When people are homophobic, they are not nice to someone associated with the LGBT community.
According to the author, what school-based scenario requires many students to come out as belonging to an
LGBT family?
During kindergarten, when the teacher asks students to draw their families, students must explain the various
members of their non-traditional family.
How does this text expand (or change) your thinking about LGBT experiences and the process of coming out in
particular? Cite the text in your response.
Answers will vary
Children of gay parents often don’t want people at school to know about their family and also don’t want their
family to know when they’ve been harassed at school. What are the feelings and reasons given in the text to
explain this?
On the one hand, students are scared of the bullying and social exclusion they may experience if others know they have gay parents. At the same time, they feel a sense of loyalty and protection for their families and don’t want their families to feel guilty or responsible.