Straight Talk about the N-Word

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The n-word is unique in the English language. On one hand, it is the ultimate insult- a word that has tormented generations of African Americans. Yet over time, it has become a popular term of endearment by the descendents of the very people who once had to endure it. Among many young people today—black and white—the n-word can mean friend.

Neal A. Lester, dean of humanities and former chair of the English department at Arizona State University, recognized that the complexity of the n-word’s evolution demanded greater critical attention. In 2008, he taught the first ever college-level class designed to explore the word “nigger” (which will be referred to as the n-word). Lester said the subject fascinated him precisely because he didn’t understand its layered complexities.


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“When I first started talking about the idea of the course,” Lester recalled, “I had people saying, ‘This is really exciting, but what would you do in the course? How can you have a course about a word?’ It was clear to me that the course, both in its conception and in how it unfolded, was much bigger than a word. It starts with a word, but it becomes about other ideas and realities that go beyond words.”

Lester took a few minutes to talk to Teaching Tolerance managing editor Sean Price about what he’s learned and how that can help other educators.

How did the n-word become such a scathing insult?
We know, at least in the history I’ve looked at, that the word started off as just a descriptor, “negro,” with no value attached to it. … We know that as early as the 17th century, “negro” evolved to “nigger” as intentionally derogatory, and it has never been able to shed that baggage since then—even when black people talk about appropriating and reappropriating it. The poison is still there. The word is inextricably linked with violence and brutality on black psyches and derogatory aspersions cast on black bodies. No degree of appropriating can rid it of that bloodsoaked history.

Why is the n-word so popular with many young black kids today?
If you could keep the word within the context of the intimate environment [among friends], then I can see that you could potentially own the word and control it. But you can’t because the word takes on a life of its own if it’s not in that environment. People like to talk about it in terms of public and private uses. Jesse Jackson was one of those who called for a moratorium on using the word, but then was caught using the word with a live mic during a “private” whispered conversation.

There’s no way to know all of its nuances because it’s such a complicated word, a word with a particular racialized American history. But one way of getting at it is to have some critical and historical discussions about it and not pretend that it doesn’t exist. We also cannot pretend that there is not a double standard—that blacks can say it without much social consequence but whites cannot. There’s a double standard about a lot of stuff. There are certain things that I would never say. In my relationship with my wife, who is not African American, I would never imagine her using that word, no matter how angry she was with me. …

That’s what I’m asking people to do—to self-reflect critically on how we all use language and the extent to which language is a reflection of our innermost thoughts. Most people don’t bother to go to that level of self-reflection and self-critique. Ultimately, that’s what the class is about. It’s about selfeducation and self-critique, not trying to control others by telling them what to say or how to think, but rather trying to figure out how we think and how the words we use mirror our thinking. The class sessions often become confessionals because white students often admit details about their intimate social circles I would never be privy to otherwise.

What types of things do they confess?
In their circles of white friends, some are so comfortable with the n-word because they’ve grown up on and been nourished by hip-hop. Much of the commercial hip-hop culture by black males uses the n-word as a staple. White youths, statistically the largest consumers of hip-hop, then feel that they can use the word among themselves with black and white peers. … But then I hear in that same discussion that many of the black youths are indeed offended by [whites using the n-word]. And if blacks and whites are together and a white person uses the word, many blacks are ready to fight. So this word comes laden with these complicated and contradictory emotional responses to it. It’s very confusing to folks on the “outside,” particularly when nobody has really talked about the history of the word in terms of American history, language, performance and identity.

Most public school teachers are white women. How might they hold class discussions about this word? Do you think it would help them to lay some groundwork?
You might want to get somebody from the outside who is African American to be a central part of any discussion— an administrator, a parent, a pastor or other professional with some credibility and authority. Every white teacher out there needs to know some black people. Black people can rarely say they know no white people; it’s a near social impossibility. The NAACP would be a good place to start, but I do not suggest running to the NAACP as a single “authority.” Surely there are black parents of school children or black neighbors a few streets over or black people at neighboring churches. The teacher might begin by admitting, “This is what I want to do, how would you approach this? Or, how do we approach it as a team? How can we build a team of collaboration so that we all accept the responsibility of educating ourselves and our youths about the power of words to heal or to harm?” This effort then becomes something shared as opposed to something that one person allegedly owns.

How might a K-12 teacher go about teaching the n-word?
At the elementary level, I can imagine bringing in children’s picture books to use in conjunction with a segment on the civil rights movement, because students talk about the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Look at some of the placards [held by white people at 1960s civil rights] protests and see if some of them have been airbrushed or the messages sanitized. Talk about language, about words and emotion, about words and pain. Consider the role of words in the brutal attacks on black people during slavery, during Jim Crow, during the civil rights movement. Consider how words were part of the attacks on black people.

Depending on how old the students are, a teacher might talk about the violence that involved lynching and castration, and how the n-word was part of the everyday discourse around race relations at the time. Then bring in some hip-hop, depending again on the age. If these are middle school students or high school students, a teacher can talk specifically about hip-hop and how often the n-word is used and in a specific context. … There are many ways that a teacher can talk about the n-word without necessarily focusing on just one aspect—like whether or not Huck should have used the n-word when he references Jim [in Huckleberry Finn]. Any conversation about the n-word has to be about language and thinking more broadly.

What should teachers keep in mind as they teach about the n-word?
Remember the case of the white teacher who told the black student to sit down and said, “Sit down, nigga.” And then the teacher is chastised by the administration and of course there is social disruption. He said, “I didn’t say ‘Sit down, nigger,’ I said ‘Sit down, nigga,’ and that’s what I hear the students saying.” I’m thinking, first, you are an adult, white teacher. Secondly, do you imitate everything that you see and hear others doing or saying? At some level, there has to be some self-critique and critical awareness and sensitivity to difference. Just because someone else is doing it doesn’t mean that I do it even if and when I surely can.

In my courses, I’m more interested in raising questions than in finding answers to them. I think the questions lead to potential self-discovery. It’s not about whether or not a person uses the n-word. I try to move the class beyond easy binaries—“Well, blacks can use it, but whites can’t.” That line of thinking doesn’t take us very far at all. What we are trying to do, at least the way I have conceptualized and practiced this discovery, is so much more. The class strives to teach us all manner of ways to talk about, think about and to understand ourselves, and each other, and why and how we fit in the rest of the world.

Comments

"Pejudice Song"

Submitted by Anonymous on 25 March 2013 - 7:40pm.

Watch "Prejudice Song" by Tim Minchin on YouTube.
I see it as a funny, clever mockery of prejudice the absurdity of prejudice language.

White teacher from Miami

Submitted by Anonymous on 25 February 2013 - 6:01pm.

I teach in a mostly minority school: 74% Hispanic, 22% Black and 4% white. How do you discuss the N-word when all the students use that word to say, "Hey!" to each other? I mean, I constantly hear them call each other regardless of race! And when I do try and explain it's meaning, they tell me it doesn't mean that anymore.

Hi. I am a white teacher in a

Submitted by Colleen Amberg on 1 September 2012 - 7:35am.

Hi. I am a white teacher in a very racially diverse school, about which 40% of the students are African American. In my 5th grade social studies class this year, two of the books I chose to supplement the history lessons are With Every Drop of Blood, which is a story set in the Civil War, but is about an unusual friendship that develops between a white boy and a slave. The other book is The Friendship by Mildred Taylor, which is set in the 1920's or 30's and centered around a black adult having the nerve to call a white man by his first name. These are both wonderful books, with important lesson that bring history alive for young people. My concern is that they both use the n-word, multiple times in the telling of these stories. As a history teacher, this word is so emotionally charged, I just don't know if I should proceed with my plan to read these books -however, I think the lessons in these books- the opportunity they present to teach these kids the fact that so much of history is people doing terrible things, the opportunity they provide to learn about the power of words, etc. are all so strong, I am not sure. I know this subject needs a delicate hand to navigate too. But it is part of history, it did happen and we should learn from it, not sweep it under the rug so it can happen again. So I am wondering other people's thoughts are because my school is so racially diverse - what I see as the opportunity for an amazing lesson, may be seen different through somebody else's eyes. If you are an African American and have children in 5th grade especially, I'd be so appreciative to hear your thoughts. Thank you so much.

the n-word

Submitted by Anonymous on 19 March 2013 - 4:30pm.

did you ever figure out how you would proceed with this. I didn't want to respond and waste your time if the point was moot.

Book

Submitted by Anonymous on 26 February 2013 - 7:57pm.

I would write a letter to your administrator asking for permission to read the book with your students. I would also send a letter home to the students' parents explaining why you are reading the book and what role that the word will have in your lessons. Obviously you want to address how hurtful the word is while appreciating the time period in which the literature was written. I would then explain to the parents that while you feel that the word is extremely offensive, you are trying to get your students to share the same view towards the word as you do, and in order to do that, the students must hear the word used in context in order to gain an understanding as to how offensive and hurtful it is. I can't imagine that anyone will be frustrated or upset with you for trying to do this, however there is always one parent that may try to take it a step further since you are white. There will always be one who gets offended due to the mere fact that you are white and teaching black history. Perhaps you can invite that parent into the room to help with the lesson, since after all, they can truly relate on a personal level. I hope that helps. Remember, always get any permission from your administrator in writing so if it comes back in a negative light, you have the permission on paper, not just by word of mouth. Good luck and I think you are doing a great job. Those kids are lucky to have you as their teacher.

i am seeking advice on how to

Submitted by lisa englert on 30 July 2012 - 8:13am.

i am seeking advice on how to incorporate the book titled "the immortal like of henrietta lacks" in my biology class when discussing genetic engineering- as a white teacher i am seeking advice as to how to discuss the racial, moral and ethical implicaitons in the text. my overall fear/comcern is to have my students come away with self- depreciation -

I am an African American

Submitted by Marquise on 11 January 2012 - 12:11pm.

I am an African American School Teacher and there is a free 20 minute documentary on the history of the word "Nigger" called A War for your Soul in vimeo. com and on you tube (type "War for the black Man's Soul" at you tube search engine. Or you can type A war for your soul on google. com to find it. This is good place to start a potentially lively discussion on this subject.

I have seen "A War for your

Submitted by Sarah on 2 February 2012 - 1:09pm.

I have seen "A War for your Soul" and agree that is a good place to start. However I strongly caution against white teachers using this as a tool to educate black students on the word. I fear that the video can come across as very anti-young-black-student out of context. I believe the video CAN be used if presented correctly from a place of understanding and love, but I think that a white teacher would have a hard time having African-American students believe that its coming from a positive place. Especially if that white teacher is ALREADY having trouble discussing the word. So... My advice to a white teacher is to YES watch "A War for Your Soul" yourself, but seek out the help of an African American educator to facilitate the dialogue.

The n-word is used as a way

Submitted by Diane on 4 October 2011 - 1:31pm.

The n-word is used as a way to disrupt communication between people no matter who uses it. It has such an emotional charge on it even today.

Some classroom situations

Submitted by Sean Price on 30 September 2011 - 3:29pm.

Some classroom situations involving the n-word are unusual, to say the least. At Teaching Tolerance, we've heard of one white teacher who says that the n-word is uttered almost every day in class by black students. The teacher asks students not to use the word, but they continue to do so. Often they say they did not realize it had come out of their mouths. And sometimes, they get mad because they've been asked to stop using it.

Teaching Tolerance would like to hear from other educators: What should this teacher do? What's your advice?

As teachers we are not only

Submitted by Delorme McKee-Stovall on 4 October 2011 - 2:35pm.

As teachers we are not only responsible for providing students with facts we are responsible for assisting students with transforming their lives and relationships with others for the better. Teaching doesn't mean that we need to be ready with the right answers to every situation. More often than not, we need to be ready to pose the right questions in a way that demonstrates respect and compassion for our students.

Dr. Lester's recommendation to engage in the later goes a long way when teaching adults. It also has the same effect when transforming adolescents. As teachers, we need to remain curious about who students are and where they are coming from, especially when it comes to difficult situations. We also need to expect students to be responsible for what they say and do. I have found that by engaging in a process of curious exploration with student we tend to transform each other. Some sample questions that have helped me when addressing the use of the word nigger are:

"What did you mean/intend when you used the word nigger/nigga?"
"How does using the word make you feel?"
"Where and when did you first hear this word used?" "Was it said in a positive way or a negative way?"
"Who or what made you believe that it was OK to use the word to address your friends or a Black person?"
"Do you know the history of the power of this word?" (Offer a brief history, if the student doesn't have this information.)
"Have you ever asked a Black person if its OK for you to use the word?"
"Has a Black person ever asked you not to use the word? If they did, what reason(s)did they give?"
"Has anyone ever referred to you by a word that made you feel uncomfortable or disrespected?"
"what other words have you heard people say that were meant to demean others?"

"Would you consider thinking more about the impact of demeaning epithets before you use them again?"

I know. It takes more time to be curious and to work toward transformation rather than the transmission of facts. But a change in our behavior as teachers responding to difficult situations also serves as a model for the way we would want to be treated in a similar situations.

Delorme Mckee-Stovall, Manager
Office of Human Relations
(former Coordinator of the Network for a Hate Free Community)
Santa Clara County Government

Thank you! Great advice, and

Submitted by Maureen Costello on 4 October 2011 - 5:08pm.

Thank you! Great advice, and great questions.

This is a teachable moment.

Submitted by Diane on 4 October 2011 - 1:47pm.

This is a teachable moment. Stop whatever you are doing and have the conversation about the word. Ask the student why he ''felt'' angry when asked not to use it. This is not just a mental process but also an emotional process at the ''feelings'' level. Then, see where the communication goes from there.